Conflicts happen everywhere… Like it or not it’s just part of nature. And yes… there is always an unexpected elephant in the room …
In every relationship, the day will come where there will be conflict. And many of us automatically assume that conflict will collapse a relationship. Some of us avoid conflict like the plague, thinking that if we close our eyes to a potential clash, it won’t exist.
Others will tell you, just say the word “conflict” and you will create conflict!
Most people prefer to avoid conflict and shy away from it at any cost because it can be so painful and disturbing.
Another way to look at conflict, both at home and at work, is to say that relationships require conflict. Believe it or not, without healthy conflict, you will get neither the results nor the satisfaction you are looking for both personally and professionally. Conflict is just nature at work.
Not facing the conflict at hand only pushes the situation into the future, resulting in the unfortunate outcome that can lead to the deep pain of losing the relationship.
Even more painful is that many people look back later in life, and feel great sadness and loneliness, and suffer from these important losses.
All is fair in love and that is why it is so important to confront conflict.
Healthy conflict in all relationships requires that you address issues that stand in the way of you and another person.
It’s especially important to use healthy conflict resolution when someone has hurt you and you cannot get past it. Perhaps their action started out small and you logically can understand what they did, yet the pain you feel becomes the big obstacle to mending the relationship.
Why consider Conflict Resolution and Mediation as the next step?
For decades we have seen the powerful outcomes of successful conflict mediations in families, couples and organizations. With a foundation of trust and a deep love for how important relationships are, we can say that it is always worth facing and confronting problems. Of course, not all mediations may end exactly the way we want but examining and discussing both sides of a problem can give us new perspectives, whatever the outcome.
Conflict, by definition, is created by opposing needs, values, or viewpoints. Everyone is human with shortcomings and pains from the past. That is why there will always be beliefs, perceptions, opinions, and ideas that are in opposition.
Yet, as humans we all must learn how to resolve these conflicts. For any relationship to experience good healthy conflict, the foundation of trust must be laid. Trust is created first by understanding all the communication styles of each individual person. Then both sides must implement systems and rhythms of communication between each other.
All of this is required to be able to tackle and eliminate conflict. If you want to be part of a healthy relationship, you must be willing to expect conflict and play a part in solving it.
When you humbly and thoughtfully initiate conflict resolution with your loved one, you are saying, “I care more about our relationship than I do about my own personal comfort.”
Yes, it demands that you take a risk for the sake of the betterment of the relationship and often times for the sake of the other. We all have blind spots and if we do not have people speaking the truth of how they truly feel, how will we ever become better people who also feel happy, peaceful and satisfied?
Conflict demands vision, listening, hearing and setting boundaries for each other. It also asks us to be separate. And that is precisely why it hurts. And yet, that is precisely how it can heal us as individuals.
If you find yourself having conflict with family members or relationships, consider using conflict mediation as your solution. In the end it is always only about strengthening the relationship, rather than “winning” the argument. Let love be your guide.
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